A veteran CNN commentator who was fired this week and whose entire show was canceled by the network appeared to be fighting back tears during his farewell broadcast on Sunday.
Most job seekers are not brave enough to include bad experiences on their resumes. But painful experiences are more valuable than good when it comes to personal development.
Every resume has a place to list experience. You dig deep to include every good thing you can possibly think of. Especially your greatest accomplishments. Naturally your good and painful experiences contribute to the person you have become.
The conversations go like this. “Nice to meet you. What kind of work do you do? Where did you grow up? Where did you go to school”? The questions come one after another but eventually the issue of your “experience” is the main topic. And in those moments, you mentally run to the great things you’ve been a part of.
Bring value by remembering good experiences, reflecting on painful experiences, and learning from both.
What benefits come from painful experiences that make new experiences even better?
Fess up! Look your mistakes in the eye and learn something about yourself. Don’t transfer blame to others. Learn something about the situation.
You gain confidence and humility when you reflect on painful experiences.
“The quality of people’s experiences and the ways people learn from them will tell you more about their actual qualifications than a number of years spent in a “leadership position.” Anzheilika
Lessons from experience catapult you to the next experience. Warning: Admiring past accomplishments and dwelling on past experiences derails your life.
“The feeling of knowing leads us to rationalize our past choices—and the urge to do so grows stronger the more experience we acquire.” Ed Catmull – Pixar
The 9 dangers of experience:
Closed mind.
Lack of interest.
Sleepwalking.
Overconfidence.
Useless traditions.
Feeling of “arrived.”
Comparison to others.
Boasting.
Skewed Vision.
New experiences change everything, including the things that you don’t want to change.
A tight grip on past experiences guarantees a bumpy ride. The time invested in learning particular skills is helpful for a time. But soon, a better way shows up.
Life gets better when we take risks with new experiences, new conversations, and new thought.
7 Questions when Looking in the Mirror
Have I spent too much time doing the same things?
How much do I long for new experiences?
How recent are my new experiences?
How might my experiences focus too much on me personally?
Am I too stubborn to allow new experiences to surprise me?
When do I initiate new experiences, or do I wait for them to come to me?
Are the people who know me tired of my experiences?
5 Sage’s questions regarding experience:
Has too much of the same experience blinded you?
Are you really open to new experiences?
Will your new experiences come from current relationships?
Will you greet new experiences with fear or curiosity?
Are your new experiences likely to be too similar to past ones?
The Sage sifts through potential experiences and chooses ones that bring benefit and discards ones that are harmful.
A sage:
Chooses new experiences that are beneficial and rejects repeating old experiences.
Loves the opportunity of fighting through painful experiences.
Feels burdened to watch others participate in painful experiences.
Applauds first and most when people benefit from painful experiences.
In the readings today, the Lord describes a danger: our tendency to make light of judgment and not be sober that one day we must account for our actions. The Lord has a desire to save us, but we must understand that our will, our “Yes,” is essential to our salvation.
The Gospel opens with a question, “Lord, will only a few people be saved?” He answered them, “Strive to enter through the narrow gate, for many, I tell you, will attempt to enter but will not be strong enough” (Luke 13:22-30). Many people today hold a kind of universalism that presumes that most people — indeed, the vast majority — will go to heaven. But that is not what the Lord says. And while no percentages are given here by the Lord, no exact numbers, we ought not to interpret the words “many” and “few” to mean nothing, or the opposite of what he says.
Jesus is teaching us a sober truth: Given the tendency of the human heart toward hardness, stubbornness and obtuseness, many are on a path that rejects his offer of a saving relationship, rejects his offer of the Kingdom and its values. We need to accept that the Lord teaches that salvation is not attained by everyone, that some are not “strong enough,” that many are on a road that does not lead to glory. Jesus is not simply engaging in hyperbole. He is urging us to be awake, sober and serious in securing salvation for ourselves and everyone we meet.
Many today think of hell as a place only for the extremely wicked (murderers, genocidal maniacs, serial rapists, etc.). But there are many other paths that also lead away from heaven (and toward hell): lack of forgiveness, preoccupation with cares of the world, and unrepented sexual sins, such as fornication, homosexual acts and adultery. Wealth also creates difficulties that make it hard to enter the Kingdom. Still others cannot and will not endure persecutions, trials or setbacks related to the faith and instead choose to conform to the world’s demands and even to deny Christ before others.
God does not want anyone to be lost: “‘As surely as I live,’ says the Lord, ‘I take no pleasure in the death of the wicked, but rather that they turn from their ways and live. Turn! Turn from your evil ways! Why will you die, O house of Israel?’” (Ezekiel 33:11). Hell exists because of the reverence God has for our freedom. He will not force us to love who he loves or what he loves.
Heaven is not our personal designer paradise.
It is the kingdom of God in all its fullness with all of its values, such as forgiveness, chastity, generosity, love of the truth and love of one’s enemy — and with God at the center.
But many do not want to forgive, or love their enemy; others do not esteem chastity; still others prefer to be stingy rather generous. Many do not want God at the center; they prefer that spot for themselves. And to those who hate the truth, the truth seems hateful. Jesus says elsewhere that many “prefer the darkness” (John 3:19). And God is not going to force them to want what he is offering. The saddest thing about the souls in hell is that they would be more miserable in heaven.
So we have a sober warning here from the Lord that many of our desires are wrong. We must allow him to convert our desires so that we earnestly want what he is actually offering: the real heaven.
St. Pius X is highly regarded for his promotion of the Eucharist, especially the reception of holy communion by children.
St. Pius X, pope from 1903 – 1914, was a strong advocate for the reception of holy communion, encouraging all the faithful to receive the Eucharist as often as possible.
Holy communion is the shortest and safest way to Heaven.St. Pius X
In particular, he wrote in his decree Quam Singulari that everyone should receive holy communion more often, even daily if possible.
At the time, Catholics were accustomed to receiving holy communion only once a year. Very few would receive holy communion on a weekly basis, and typically only priests would receive on a daily basis. St. Pius X wished to correct this practice of abstaining.
The Council of Trent, indeed, teaches otherwise when it calls the Eucharist, “An antidote whereby we may be freed from daily faults and be preserved from mortal sins.” This doctrine was not long ago strongly emphasized by a Decree of the Sacred Congregation of the Council given on December 20, 1905. It declared that daily approach to communion is open to all, old and young, and two conditions only are required: the state of grace and a right intention.
Furthermore, St. Pius X used that same decree to lower the age of First Communion to the “age of reason,” which typically is around seven years old, from the usual age of about 12 at the time.
Reinforcing the reality of the children’s innocence and closeness to God, Pius X wrote, “the fact that in ancient times the remaining particles of the Sacred Species were even given to nursing infants seems to indicate that no extraordinary preparation should now be demanded of children who are in the happy state of innocence and purity of soul, and who, amidst so many dangers and seductions of the present time have a special need of this heavenly food.”
St. Pius X’s document opened the doors to a more frequent reception of holy communion by a wider array of people and started a “revival” of faith around the Most Blessed Sacrament.
The U.S. Department of State issued an advisory warning Americans about an increased risk of kidnapping when going to Mexico, amid heightened cartel violence in several areas.
“Violent crime—such as homicide, kidnapping, carjacking, and robbery—is widespread and common in Mexico,” the State Departmentsaid Wednesday in its notice.
The federal government and State Department have limited capacity to render emergency services to citizens in many places in Mexico. That’s because U.S. government employees are restricted or prohibited from going to certain areas, according to the State Department.
“U.S. citizens are advised to adhere to restrictions on U.S. government employee travel. State-specific restrictions are included in the individual state advisories below,” the notice said. “U.S. government employees may not travel between cities after dark, may not hail taxis on the street, and must rely on dispatched vehicles, including app-based services like Uber, and regulated taxi stands.”
For government workers, they should also avoid traveling alone and in remote areas, according to the bulletin. Federal government employees also cannot drive from the “U.S.-Mexico border to or from the interior parts of Mexico” other than daytime travel in Baja California, a Mexican state that lies south of California, and a select few other areas.
‘Do Not Travel’
Several Mexican states were marked under the “Do Not Travel” section in the State Department bulletin due to crime and the risk of kidnapping, including Sinaloa, Colima, Guerrero, Michoacan, Zacatecas, and Tamaulipas states. People were also urged to reconsider travel or exercise increased caution in most other Mexican states due to the risk of kidnapping or crime.
“Keep traveling companions and family back home informed of your travel plans. If separating from your travel group, send a friend your GPS location. If taking a taxi alone, take a photo of the taxi number and/or license plate and text it to a friend,” according to the State Department’s bulletin.
“Use toll roads when possible and avoid driving alone or at night,” it added. “In many states, police presence and emergency services are extremely limited outside the state capital or major cities.”
Last week, hundreds of Mexican soldiers were sent to the border city of Juarez after a prison face-off between members of two rival cartels caused a riot and shootouts that killed 11 people, most of them civilians, authorities said.
Across town, convenience stores were shot at and set on fire. FEMSA, the parent company of the Oxxo chain, said in a statement that one of its employees and a woman who was applying for a job were killed in the violence.
Last weekend, in Baja California state, about two-dozen vehicles were hijacked and burned, purportedly by cartel members, according to reports. There were reports and surfaced video footage of the Jalisco New Generation Cartel issuing a declaration of a curfew in Tijuana, located next to San Diego, California, while threatening local residents.