Realities of Motherhood

by gayatribagayatkar mother holding her baby

The standards set and expectations are really high from a mother , already being a woman in the family she is trained to be able to bear , learn to put herself behind and look after well being of others first.

Not everybody has an easy motherhood , though called a joyful experience. Many factors like education , financial status, socioeconomic status, family support, culture define the journey of motherhood. Still she alone bears the responsibility.

When she becomes a mother everybody else transcends to a role , but all take their time and have their definite roles .But a mother before she even try to live the joy many things put her out of place during the transition her body , hormones , the new and unknown responsibilities, lethargy and fatigue due to physical and emotional stress. Its this time she needs more from her family members to embrace and smoothly transit through this new phase .

Every new responsibility and knowledge especially in the early stages of motherhood is either new , learned from experience or from sources both formal and informal :baby routines, baby milestones and signals , feeding , baby foods , child care , self care, clothing , toys, medical care, child mental and physical developments. …As mother she has much to deal with within herself , her relationship and family, it may at times be more than she can handle and can even have outburst. There is much need to understand the complexity and importance of this phase and give special care , support and emotional strength to make this transition much joyful and not stressful for her.

Many a times culture has a major influence where the mother is fighting it all alone and tends to ignore her body and health. Just as they start to embrace motherhood they are carrying another or already have kids to look after .Sometimes They have to cater to needs of family members as she is supposed to be wife , daughter in-law before being a mother. Primary roles defined of the women in the house outweighs her motherhood. She has not much left in her to check for well being of her child and herself.

A homemaker mother does all chores, caters to all members, handles all the outside work shopping drop, pickup, to taking active part in Childs education and development. Yet there she is questioned for not being the breadwinner. If she is working woman she juggles between work and home , still tries to find enough time for her child development and nutrition . A working mother makes many sacrifices at personal level to keep her financial or career stability as well as home. Yet pointers are raised on her parenting and not living up to standards and not able to much look after her child necessities.

Either way the mother is pushing herself best she can but gets no support or value for having a good motherhood.

The socioeconomic status and financial status also plays a major role in a motherhood to have right resources, facilities, support , care and help. Some mother have children with special or more needs this adds to her responsibilities of helping the child through those phases from early years and sometimes even after.

My point is here its easy to be judgmental about mother and her motherhood and parenting , but there are many factors that go into in making the motherhood a truly enjoyable and successful experience. This again begins from the society where we nurture right values towards woman, woman equality at home , healthcare and child care facilities, culture , family system, education, socioeconomic status.

A Good Motherhood leads to better childhood, a better childhood means a better individual , Stronger individuals makes a better society to live in. Its a cycle lets support motherhood and make a better place to live in.

I am coming to your house

Nov 16, 2020 by Pat Marrin

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“He ran ahead and climbed a sycamore tree to see Jesus, who was about to pass that way” (Luke 19:3).

Rev 3:1-6, 14-22; Luke 19:1-10

The story of Zacchaeus is a favorite Gospel story, especially for children, because it is so rich in small details that reveal something about what happens when we encounter Jesus. Zacchaeus is both a “big” man in Jericho because of his wealth and a “little” man in the estimation of his neighbors because of his role as a tax collector. There is something comical about seeing him climb a tree to see over the crowds awaiting Jesus. Yet there is something deeply serious in his desire to “see” this prophet everyone was talking about, how he defied the priests by eating with sinners and preaching God’s mercy.

Something wonderful happens. Jesus looks up into the tree and “sees” Zacchaeus.  The Gospels note that when Jesus looked intently at people he sees into their hearts. His look of love had a transforming effect. Jesus calls Zacchaeus down from the tree and invites himself to his house. The crowd is taken aback that Jesus will dine with this public sinner, but Zacchaeus is thrilled and on the spot pledges to give half his wealth to the poor and to repay fourfold any money he has extorted.  Jesus rejoices that salvation has come to this son of Abraham and to his house. 

Luke reminds us at the start of the story that Jesus is passing through Jericho on his way to Jerusalem.  The encounter with Zacchaeus holds a beautiful symbolism in having him up in a tree, for Jesus is on his way to another tree, the tree of the cross, and what occurs is the trading of places between sinner and savior.  Jesus is about to complete the prophecy of Isaiah’s “Suffering Servant” by taking on himself the sins of the world.  We are witnessing the Gospel in miniature, for in every encounter Jesus trades places with the sinners, outcast, rejected, wounded and damaged people he meets along the way.

The story also reminds us that Zacchaeus initiated the encounter with Jesus, who was passing by.  The first movement of faith is in him, as it was for so many of the people Jesus saved. They heard he was passing by and sought him out, with wonderful results.  So is it for us. Jesus is passing by. Do I want to see him? What obstacles am I be willing to overcome to see him? Would I climb a tree on the chance that he will see me and come to my house today?

In today’s first reading, we hear this invitation: “Behold, I stand at the door and knock. If anyone hears my voice and opens the door, then I will enter their house and dine with them, and they with me” (Rev 3: 21).