‘Profanities have to stop, the Eucharist isn’t negotiable’, Cardinal Sarah


In this exclusive interview with the Daily Compass, the Prefect of the Congregation for Divine Worship and the Discipline of the Sacraments intervenes on the subject of “take away”  Communion and on the “negotiations” underway to guarantee its taken with the correct precautions: no compromise, “the Eucharist is a gift we receive from God and we must receive it in a dignified way. We are not at the supermarket.” “No-one has the right to prevent a priest from hearing Confession and giving Communion.” “ There is a rule and this must be respected, the faithful are free to receive Communion in the hand or in the mouth.” “It’s a question of faith, the heart of the problem lies in the crisis of faith in the priesthood.” “Mass in streaming is misleading also for priests: they must look at God not at a camera»

Cardinal Robert Sarah

“It’s a matter of faith and if we were really aware of what we are celebrating in the Mass and what the Eucharist is, certain ways of distributing Communion wouldn’t even come to mind.” Cardinal Sarah, Prefect of the Congregation for Divine Worship and the Discipline of the Sacraments responds publicly to the “concerns” of the faithful, who have not only been deprived of Holy Mass, but who are now dismayed by the bizarre proposals being put forward, with a view to a limited return to public Masses, that guarantee hygienic safety for the distribution of communion.

Recently, and in Italy, there has been talk about a solution which has already been adopted in Germany by some, whereby the Body of Christ is “packaged” : “To allow Italian Catholics to return to it, whilst avoiding contamination – states the newspaper La Stampa – consideration is being given to a “do it yourself” communion with “take away” hosts previously consecrated by the priest, which would be closed individually in plastic bags placed on shelves in the church”. «No, no, no – Cardinal Sarah replies shocked on the phone – it’s absolutely not possible, God deserves respect, you can’t put Him in a bag. I don’t know who thought of this absurdity, even if it is true that the deprivation of the Eucharist is certainly a suffering, the matter of how to communicate is not open to negotiation. We communicate in a dignified way, worthy of God who comes to us. The Eucharist must be treated with faith, we cannot treat it as a trivial object, we are not at the supermarket. This is total madness.”

Something like this has already taken place in Germany …
Unfortunately, many things are done in Germany that are not Catholic, but that doesn’t mean you have to imitate them. Recently I heard a bishop say that in the future there will be no more Eucharistic assemblies, only the liturgy of the Word. But this is Protestantism.

As usual, “compassionate” reasons prevail: the faithful need Communion, which they have been deprived of for some time, but since the risk of contagion is still high, a compromise must be found …
There are two issues that must be absolutely clarified. First of all, the Eucharist is not a right or a duty: it is a gift that we receive freely from God and that we must welcome with veneration and love. The Lord is a person, no one would welcome the person he loves in a bag or otherwise in an unworthy way. The response to the privation of the Eucharist cannot be desecration. This really is a matter of faith, if we believe we cannot treat it unworthily.

And the second issue?
Nobody can prevent a priest from confessing and giving communion, nobody has the right to stop him. The sacrament must be respected. So even if it is not possible to attend Masses, the faithful can ask to be confessed and to receive Communion.

Speaking of Masses, what do you think about the prolonging of celebrations on streaming or on TV?
We cannot get used to this, God became incarnate, He is flesh and blood, He is not a virtual reality. It is also highly misleading for priests. In Mass the priest has to look at God, instead he is getting used to looking at the camera, as if it were a show. We cannot go on like this.

Let’s go back to Communion. In a few weeks, there is still hope that public Masses will be restored. And apart from the more sacrilegious solutions, there is also discussion as to whether it is more appropriate to receive Communion in the mouth or in the hand, and in the latter case how to receive it in the hand. What should be done?
There is already a rule in the Church and this must be respected: the faithful are free to receive Communion in the mouth or hand.

In recent years, there has been concern that a clear attack on the Eucharist is taking place: first there was the question of the divorced and remarried, under the banner of “communion for all”; then intercommunion with Protestants; then the proposals on making the Eucharist available in the Amazon and in the regions with a shortage of clergy, now the Masses at the time of the coronavirus …
It should not surprise us. The devil strongly attacks the Eucharist because it is the heart of the life of the Church. But I believe, as I have already written in my books, that the heart of the problem is the crisis of faith in the priesthood. If priests are aware of what the Mass is and what the Eucharist is, certain ways of celebrating or certain hypotheses about Communion would not even come to mind. Jesus cannot be treated like this.

‘World Threatened By Humanism’, Pope Benedict


In new biography, Pope Benedict says world threatened by humanism

Retired Pope Benedict XVI, pictured in a 2010 file photo, celebrated his 93rd birthday April 16, 2020.

MUNICH – In a newly published biography, Retired Pope Benedict XVI said the Catholic Church is threatened by a “worldwide dictatorship of seemingly humanist ideologies.” He cited same-sex marriage, abortion and the “creation of humans in the laboratory” as examples.

The retired pope, 93, said: “Modern society is in the process of formulating an anti-Christian creed, and resisting this creed is punished by social excommunication.” Commenting on the state of the church in the 21st century, he said, “Events have shown by now that the crisis of faith has above all led to a crisis of Christian existence.”

The German Catholic news agency, KNA, reported the remarks were published in the final chapter of a biography of the retired pope by bestselling author Peter Seewald. The book was published in German May 4; the author said Pope Benedict made the comments in autumn 2018, more than five years after he resigned.

In the interview, which had not been published before, the former pope said he had written a spiritual testament. This will presumably not be revealed until after his death, KNA reported. The pope did not comment on its contents.

He also explained the reasons for his resignation as pope in 2013. He denied that it was because of corruption in the Vatican or the “Vatileaks” scandal. Instead, he said it had become increasingly clear to him that, in addition to possible dementia, “other forms of insufficient ability to hold office properly are also possible.”

In this context, Pope Benedict revealed that he, like Sts. Paul VI and John Paul II, had signed a conditional declaration of resignation “in the event of illness that rendered the proper performance of duties impossible.” He did this “relatively early” in his pontificate, he told Seewald.

He commented at length on criticism of his resignation. The office of a “pope emeritus” that he had created should be compared to that of a bishop who had retired for age reasons, he said. This legal status could also be applied to the bishop of Rome. It prevented “any notion of a coexistence of two popes: a diocese can have only ONE incumbent. At the same time, it expresses a spiritual bond that can never be taken away.”

The former pope also likened his situation to that of an old farmer in Bavaria who has passed his farm to his son, lives in a small house next to it and has ceded his fatherly and commanding rights.

Pope Benedict vehemently rejected accusations that he had interfered in church debates since then. This, he said, was a “malicious distortion of the truth.” KNA reported that he hinted there were “reasons why people just want to switch off my voice.”

Referring to his relationship with his successor, he said he thanked God that the “warm-hearted devotion of Pope Francis” enabled him to implement the idea of a pope emeritus. Since their meeting in Castel Gandolfo in 2013, he said, there has been a personal friendship that has “not only remained but grown.”

27 illegal gold mining Chinese arrested in Osun State, South West Nigeria


The Osun State Government has finally commenced the arrest and planned prosecution of 27 illegal gold miners in the state, months after a two-part investigative report on unlicensed gold exploration was done by the International Centre for Investigative Reporting (ICIR).

Source: After ICIR’s reports, Osun govt. arrests Chinese nationals, 27 illegal gold miners | The ICIR

Teach Your Child Responsibility


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By James Lehman, MSW

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The idea that a kid is responsible for things is not inborn—it doesn’t just happen by itself. It needs to be taught, coached, and learned.

So, responsibility isn’t inborn. And it also isn’t much fun either. Most responsibilities are time-consuming and boring for a child. As a result, kids naturally seek excitement and try to stay away from boring things like:

“Clean your room. Make your bed. Put your books away. Do your homework.”

Understand that it takes a lot of discipline and maturity for a kid to stay on task when something isn’t fun. It takes practice. And it requires that you coach your child to be responsible and that you hold your child accountable for his responsibilities.

Here are seven tips that will help you to teach responsibility to kids and guide them to be functional and independent adults.

1. Accountability Must Be Enforced

Do parents simply forget to teach responsibility? Every parent I’ve ever met, no matter what other qualities they had, knew enough to tell their kids to wash and get dressed, to go to school, or to clean their room.

Parents don’t always promote accountability, and that’s where the flaw is.

You have to hold kids accountable for not meeting their responsibilities. Being held accountable requires that the parent make the consequence worse than if the child had completed the task in the first place. And that act of being held accountable promotes a willingness to meet the responsibilities next time.

Many parents either don’t hold their kids accountable or don’t follow through on the consequences once they set them, which in turn just promotes more irresponsibility. Once again, the child learns that his excuses and lies and justifications work for him in his effort to avoid responsibility for himself or his behavior.

He also learns that things don’t have to be earned and that society, as represented by his parents, won’t follow through and hold him accountable. It’s a bad lesson to learn.

So it’s vital to teach kids how to be responsible, and if they aren’t, you have to hold them accountable.

2. Start Early

As early as you can in your child’s life, start having them take responsibility for the things with which they’re involved. For instance, have your child pick up his toys before he goes to bed. Now, if he has a hard time concentrating on that because he’s young, get down on the floor and pick them up with him. But don’t do it for him. Even if it’s “I’ll do one, then you do one,” he learns to take care of his responsibilities.

I also think you should make your child use an alarm clock early in life. An alarm helps them learn the responsibility of setting the alarm at night and then getting up and shutting it off. What you’re doing is teaching them from a young age that they’re an individual and that they have responsibilities.

3. Identify Responsibilities and Use Responsible Language

When your child completes a task, tell her:

“Nice way to follow through on your responsibility.”

“I like the way you took care of that responsibility.”

“You know, it’s your responsibility to do that, and I like that you did it.”

“You know, I’m rewarding you because you met your responsibility.”

In other words, the more you identify it, the more conscious your child becomes of it. I think it’s essential for them to understand they’re getting rewarded for completing their responsibility, not for being cute, lovable, or chummy.

The earlier you connect the reward to the responsibility, the more clearly that becomes associated in your child’s mind.

4. Set the Example

As a parent, you need to meet your own responsibilities consistently and to label it when you do. So you can say:

“My responsibility is to go to work, and I’m doing it today.”

If your child asks where are you going, say:

“I’m going to work. That’s my responsibility.”

“I’m going grocery shopping. That’s my responsibility.”

The idea is that you’re modeling the right behavior. Be the example. As a parent, when you tell your child you’re going to do something, it becomes your responsibility to do it.

So, don’t make promises you can’t keep and, when meeting responsibilities, be sure to use language that says so.

5. Teach and Coach Responsibility

Sit down and explain to children what responsibility means. Responsibilities are like commitments or promises—they’re the things you have to do, the things that are your job, and the things you’re involved in where other people are depending on you.

So if you play with your toys, it’s your responsibility to put them away. Or with an older child, you can say:

“If you make a sandwich for yourself, it’s your responsibility to put the dishes in the dishwasher.”

Coach your child into meeting their responsibilities. I think it’s very important that kids be coached and not just lectured to. A coach doesn’t go out onto the court and shoot the basketball for you. Instead, coaches work from the sidelines. And they coach instead of criticizing.

In the same way, I think it’s important to coach kids about their responsibilities. Criticism has a place in life, but in this situation with kids, it only makes them defensive when you start to scold them about something that didn’t get done right.

6. Use Consequences and Rewards

Responsibility should be associated with both rewards and consequences. Say this to your child:

“This is your reward for doing your schoolwork and homework.”

“This is your reward for keeping your room neat all day.”

“You’re getting this reward because you cleaned the car.”

And by the same token:

“This is the consequence for not finishing your homework.”

“This is the consequence for not doing your chores this morning.”

“You’re getting this consequence because you didn’t clean your room.”

It’s sometimes helpful for parents to sit with their kids and draw up a list of consequences. How can you hold kids accountable? What do you have that can be an effective consequence? You can withhold things like electronics or assign extra chores or extra work. You can give them task-oriented consequences.

Related content: How to Give Kids Consequences That Work

At the same time, come up with a list of rewards. I call this a “rewards menu.” Rewards shouldn’t only involve spending money or buying things. Does your child like to take walks, go to the park, or maybe the beach? Do they like to play catch? Do they like to swing?

It’s fine to say to your child:

“You know, you did well today. I’m going to take you down and swing you in the swings.”

And that’s the reward. Rewards don’t have to be expensive—you just have to use your imagination. For older kids, you can go hiking, go downtown, go by the river, go to the park, more screen time. For teens, you can let them earn later bedtimes or more time with their friends. With adolescents, the reward is often getting away from you and being on their own, and that’s okay.

Related content: Kids Who Ignore Consequences: 10 Ways to Make Them Stick

7. Tell Your Kids What You’ll Be Doing Differently

When a parent decides they’re going to start using more responsibility and accountability language when they talk with their kids, they should sit down and clearly state that fact. In a calm time, say to your kids individually:

“From now on, I’m going to start to point out how we meet responsibilities around here. That way, you’ll have a clearer idea of how many responsibilities I meet and why I think it’s important that you meet your responsibilities.”

Discuss why meeting responsibilities are important to your success in life. People who don’t meet their responsibilities are not successful.

What does “not successful” mean? Well, for adults, it could mean a range of things. But when you’re talking to a teenager or a middle school child, not successful means they’re not going to be able to go out or to buy that new game. Not successful means they’re not going to have their own car or nice clothes. In other words:

“All the things that I buy for you as a parent, you’re going to have to get for yourself someday. And to do that, you’re going to have to be able to meet responsibilities just like I do. And if I didn’t meet my responsibilities of going to work and doing a good job, I would not be able to give you those things.”

Use simple, straight talk that progresses from “this is why responsibilities are important” to “here’s what’s going to happen if you do—or if you don’t—meet your responsibilities.”

Conclusion

Learning how to meet responsibilities is one of the most important skills kids can learn when they’re young. As they grow older, they’ll have a thorough understanding of the relationship between responsibilities, accountability, and rewards. But it’s never too late to learn. Kids who don’t learn to meet responsibilities at an early age need to learn them at whatever age the parents get ready to teach them.

When kids develop personal responsibility, it gives them their best chance of avoiding many of the pitfalls of life. It makes them better able to deal with inevitable problems that arise in life, particularly as they get older.

It seems that when you’re a kid, someone is always saying,

“You didn’t make your bed. You didn’t finish your homework. Why didn’t you walk the dog? How come the dishes are in the sink?”

But believe me, as an adult, someone is also saying:

“Why were you driving so fast? You’re late for work! Why didn’t you pick up the kids at school? I thought you were going to stop for milk on the way home.”

Some say you should expect your child to act responsibly. But I say you should require it, even demand it. Teach and coach it. Be thoughtful about how to enforce accountability. It’s a part of maturing, and it is an essential component of learning how to function in an increasingly complex and demanding world.

What is Loving-Kindness Meditation?


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Madhuleena Roy Chowdhury, BA 3 17-01-2020

The Dhammapada says, “Hatred cannot coexist with love and kindness. It dissipates when supplanted with thoughts of love and compassion.” Loving-kindness meditation or ‘Metta’ meditation is an ultimate form of generous and selfless love towards ourselves and others.

‘Metta’ is a Pali word for benevolence, friendship, affection, and kindness. This form of meditation is one of the most soothing ways of putting together and practicing the four qualities of love – friendliness (Metta), appreciation and joy (Mudita), compassion (Karuna), and equanimity (Upekkha).

Loving-kindness meditation is free from any expectations or bindings. We do not do it for accomplishing a goal or proving a point; it is merely a process to experience and enjoy.

Metta meditation usually starts with the self, as Buddha said ‘unless we treat ourselves with love and compassion, we cannot reflect the same on others.’ Once we start experiencing self-love and self-compassion for ourselves, we can show the same to others too.

With love and kindness meditation comes self-compassion, increased focus and attention, and a deep sense of emotional strength that balance our thoughts and actions.

The Psychology of Gratitude


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Heather Craig, BPsySc 5 18-03-2020

What is gratitude? This is not really agreed upon! Gratitude has been conceptualized as

The word gratitude comes from the Latin word gratus, which means “thankful, pleasing.” Therefore, in its most simple form, to be grateful is to have appreciation and express thankfulness.

However, there is more to gratitude than perhaps first meets the eye. What is clear, however, is that ‘counting your blessings’ has a multitude of positive effects, including promoting loving feelings and happiness.

Basically, a person is likely to feel grateful if they perceive that they have a positive personal outcome that they have either not earned, or are deserving of, as a result of the actions of another person (Emmons & McCullough, 2003).

Emotions can be looked at in terms of an affective trait or, the likelihood that an individual is to experience a particular emotion. Watkins, Woodward, Stone and Kolts (2003) suggest that

“the affective trait of gratitude may be thought of as a predisposition to experience gratitude” (p. 432)