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Ever wonder why the introvert on your team isn’t talking?
Occasionally I will hear another leader complain about someone on their team who the leader feels doesn’t contribute as much as others. “She’s too quiet.” “I wish he would speak up more.” “He doesn’t participate as much as some of the others.”
And, sometimes I wonder if the team dynamics allow for them to be heard.
The fact is introverts can be highly creative. They have original ideas. They usually take time to think things through thoroughly, which is a valuable asset to a team. They can lead, take charge, and drive a project to completion.
And, on behalf of my fellow introverts, I should say your team needs to hear from them.
If I may be so bold to say chances are if introverts aren’t sharing, you’re likely missing out and some of the best ideas are not being discovered.
Here are 7 reasons introverts may not be talking:
Everyone else kept talking – Most introverts aren’t going to talk over other people. They’ll wait their turn. If it doesn’t come. They simply won’t share.
You are rushing the answers – You have to give introverts time to process. Introverts take time to find the right words to say. If you press for quick responses, they’ll likely share less. That’s true in brainstorming too, where you’re looking for many responses.
I often receive pushback from introverts and leaders about the process of brainstorming and their participation. Brainstorming often involves quick thoughts being shared. But, I don’t think the problem is brainstorming, but rather how we do it. The process is too important not to do it and the collective thoughts are too important to miss anyone. And, fellow introverts, we don’t get an “out” of everything uncomfortable because we are introverts. No one does. We just have to adapt and leaders have to get better at leading everyone, which is the point of this post.
There are too many people, especially extroverts in the room – If there are plenty of “talkers” an introvert will often let others do the talking. Again, they won’t likely interrupt. If introverts are easily outnumbered they are usually silenced. You can sometimes solve this by breaking larger groups into smaller groups.
You have them in an uncomfortable seat – Put an introvert in the awkward front row seat or in the middle of a crowded room and they aren’t going to be as vocal. They won’t likely share if they feel they are being made the center of attention. The set up of the room is a huge part of team dynamics for everyone, but especially for introverts. Give them their space, maybe even let them have a corner, but most don’t assign seats. Don’t force it – let them choose.
They’ve got nothing to say – And, it could be as simple as that. Perhaps it isn’t their subject. Introverts aren’t as likely to talk about subjects they know less about as an extrovert will. Their words are typically based on thoughts they’ve processed longer, so if it’s a new subject, they may still be processing internally.
The conversation isn’t going anywhere – Introverts aren’t usually fans of small talk or chit-chat. If too much time at the beginning of the meeting was about nothing they consider of great importance, then you may have lost their interest. The more you can stick to your agenda the more likely they will be to participate.
You put them on the spot without warning – Introverts are often NOT opposed to making a presentation. (The “not” is capitalized on purpose.) The myth is that introverts are always silent. Not true. And, it’s not that they have nothing to say. They simply want to be prepared before they share what’s on their mind. The more advance notice you give them the better. You might even say, “Tracy, I’m going to ask you to share in just a few minutes about ______” and then come back to them. You’ll get a better answer.
Of course, all of this means you need to understand the team you’re trying to lead. Who are the introverts on your team? And, how introverted are they? What is their ideal setting for being heard? This takes time and practice – and realizing everyone on your team is not the same.
But, everyone on your team has the thoughts you need to hear. If not, why are they on the team? Our challenge, as leaders, is to create an environment conducive to hearing from everyone.
Information and opinions about leadership and management development by expert Dan McCarthy
Priests are not the best people to train others for marriage, said Cardinal Kevin Farrell, prefect of the Vatican’s Dicastery for Laity, Family, and Life.
“They have no credibility,” Farrell said, “they have never lived the experience; they may know moral theology, dogmatic theology in theory, but to go from there to putting it into practice every day…. they don’t have the experience.”
The comments from Cardinal Farrell, who hails from the Dublin suburb of Drimnagh, came in a recent interview with Intercom magazine, a publication of the Irish Catholic Bishops’ Conference. His remarks were covered by The Irish Times and picked up by Crux.
The cardinal’s assertion that lack of marital experience is a handicap conflict with Pope Saint John Paul II’s pivotal 1960 work Love and Responsibility. In it, then-Karol Wojtyla said that priests have a different and “wider” experience that allows them to minister to couples. He wrote:
It is sometimes said that only those who live a conjugal life can pronounce on the subject of marriage, and only those who have experienced it can pronounce on love between man and woman.
In this view, all pronouncements on such matters must be based on personal experience, so that priests and persons living a celibate life can have nothing to say on questions of love and marriage. Nevertheless they often do speak and write on these subjects. Their lack of direct personal experience is no handicap because they possess a great deal of experience at second-hand, derived from their pastoral work.
For in their pastoral work they encounter these particular problems so often, and in such a variety of circumstances and situations, that a different type of experience is created, which is certainly less immediate, and certainly ‘second-hand’, but at the same time very much wider. The very abundance of factual material on the subject stimulates both general reflection and the effort to synthesize what is known.
This is not the first time Farrel has made such comments. Last September, while addressing a gathering of Catholic leaders in Ireland, the Cardinal said that priests have “no credibility when it comes to living the reality of marriage.” He said laity should organize and administer marriage prep programs.
Specifics of formation for the priesthood vary from diocese to diocese and between seminaries, as does marriage preparation from one diocese to another. However, the role of priests in preparing couples for marriage usually lies in them instilling the spiritual and theological components of matrimony in the faithful. Many dioceses enlist lay sponsor couples to prepare engaged couples for the day-to-day elements of married life, which is done in tandem with the spiritual preparation provided by priests.
Farrell was most recently bishop of Dallas since 2007 after having been an auxiliary bishop in Washington D.C. beginning in late 2001.
In August 2016, Pope Francis named him head of the new office Laity, Family and Life, which combined several other Vatican offices in the course of Francis’ reform of the Curia.
In October of that year, Francis raised Farrell to the rank of cardinal, making him the highest-ranking American prelate serving in the Vatican.
The month following his being elevated to cardinal, Farrell said one of his immediate priorities would be to develop a marriage program based on the controversial Apostolic Exhortation Amoris Laetitia.
While cardinal-designate in October 2016 he had told the dissident National Catholic Reporter publication that the pope’s document “is faithful to the doctrine and to the teaching of the church,” that “It is carrying on the doctrine of Familiaris Consortio of John Paul II,” and “Basically (this) is the Holy Spirit speaking to us.”
Amoris Laetitia, in particular footnote 351, tacitly suggests that Catholics living in objectively sinful relationships may have access to the sacraments, which conflicts with Pope St. John Paul II’s Familiaris Consortio, which unequivocally states the Catholic Church’s established teaching that those divorced and remarried whose prior unions have not been declared null by the Church may not receive Holy Communion.
Also in November 2016, Farrell criticized Philadelphia Archbishop Charles Chaput’s guidelines upholding Church teaching that divorced and civilly remarried Catholics may not receive Holy Communion unless they “refrain from sexual intimacy,” as causing “division.”
Farrell, as head of the Dicastery for Laity, Family, and Life, is overseeing the World Meeting of Families taking place August 21-26 in Dublin.
The event is using Amoris Laetitia as its foundation, and critics have more than once called out either related material as espousing homosexual unions or other concerning signs that homosexuality will be promoted by the gathering.