HAT DO WE MEAN when we say someone is good? Good is often confused with competency. But it is really a character issue. You can be good at your job but doing good is a character issue. Doing good is not just no being bad but intentionally creating more good in the workplace and especially in others.
Anthony Tjan, author of Good People says, “Pursuing goodness in yourself while surrounding yourself with good people is the only leadership decision that really, truly, matters.”
Tjan begins a discussion by trying to define good and to build a framework and language to talk about what good is. He defines good people as “those committed to continuously cultivating the values that help them and others become the fullest possible versions of who they are.”
He discusses in detail a concept of goodness based on three cornerstone values:
Truth: A mindset of humility that makes you teachable. Self-awareness and integrity between your thoughts and actions based on that self-awareness
Compassion: An open mind that without bias allows you to understand the actions of others. To practice empathy and act on that empathy with a generous spirit that gives people what they need.
Wholeness: Involves gratitude for the people around you that leads to an outgoing concern for others. Caring and nurturing the growth of others. Having the respect to fulfil your obligations to yourself and others and acting with a degree of wisdom. Knowing what is important.
As leaders this is easier said than done. Daily we face tensions that have to managed as we try to implement our ideals real. Tjan lists five core tensions:
What can we do?
Good people do five things:
Good people put people first in their decision making. What does this do to my people?
Good people grow by continually seeking to improve themselves and help others to become fuller versions of themselves.
While good people value competency, they place a premium on character and values. They commit beyond competency to character and values of truth, compassion, and wholeness.
Good people are realists and find the balance between competing priorities and tensions. Learn to balance the tensions that exist in leadership
Good people aren’t situational but seek to do good at all times. Don’t just practice goodness to avoid badness.
These five things are the Good People Mantra. They are five promises. As leaders we need to break from our role as leader to follower and relate to others human to human. Goodness come from building it in yourself and inspiring it in others.
It’s not the chant: “No Trump, No KKK, No Fascist USA!” that is foremost in the minds of the progressive-left. That’s just the one they send snowflake screechers out to grab public attention when screaming helplessly at the night sky.
The never-ending mantra of the progressive-left is: “Hey, Hey!”, “Ho,” Ho!” Donald Trump has got to go!”
That’s the chant that’s their driving force, the one they mindlessly repeat to themselves as they go about their shady business; the chant they plan to scream without end after they’ve managed to bring the Harvey Weinstein, Roy Moore sexual harassment charges back onto President Donald Trump, the last one before the “IMPEACH HIM!” finale, which has been their intention all along.
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They’re likely out hunting for Trump sexual harassment victims right now, grooming them down to a ’T’ before parading them out for introduction by a waiting and pre-prepped mainstream media.
Now that so many eyes and ears have been focused on the over-played Russia-Gate, the progs are ready to roll out Donald Trump Sex-Gate.
And there won’t be any possibly forged high school yearbooks to get in the way of the lynch mob this time. They’ve had a whole year to come up with what they believe is an airtight and foolproof ‘Dump Trump Strategy’.
In other words they’re convinced they now have the goods to overturn the results of Election 2016.
Meanwhile they’ll keep the machinations of Robert Mueller’s Special Counsel with no evidence of which to speak and keep it running like a television serial to entertain the masses.
Then then there’s the comedy of Mitch McConnell’s calling for an Ethics Committee investigation: Still throwing spears at Roy Moore, McConnell now tells a Senator Al Franken watching world:
“As with all credible allegations of sexual harassment –” this is clearly credible. There’s a photo. “I believe the Ethics Committee should review the matter. I hope the Democratic leader will join me on this. Regardless of party, harassment and assault are completely unacceptable — in the workplace or anywhere else.”
And the downright laughable offer from Al Frankenstein himself:
“…Franken has called for an ethics investigation . . . against himself. Yes, seriously. “I am asking that an ethics investigation be undertaken, and I will gladly cooperate,” Franken stated.
“Of course.” (Ben Shapiro, Nov. 16, 2017)
‘Credible’ allegations of sexual harassment on Capitol Hill have already cost American taxpayers some $17 million over the last 10 to 15 years, and according to three Democrat reps, senators have been openly exposing themselves right on the House floor.
Where were self-professed Champions of Women former president Barack Obama and Hillary Clinton when all this was going on?
Any pleas from either party for sexual harassing politicians to be called out?
No, not a single one!
We don’t know what Obama has been up to since Franken was outed.
We do know what Hillary Clinton will be doing for the month of December: “In December the two-time Democrat failure for president will serve as the guest editor for Teen Vogue, the magazine/website best known for encouraging children to have anal sex. (ProjectRepublicToday, Nov. 16, 2017 )
“Even though Teen Vogue’s parent company Condé Naste will soon cease publishing a physical copy of Teen Vogue, the trash mag can still be found online.”
Paying out $15 million to settle sexual harassment charges is an outrage; sending elected public officials for mandatory rather than voluntary sexual harassment training, a joke.
Politicians who give in to their baser instincts are costing big money, but remain unnamed and therefore unidentified to continue their sexually predatory behavior.
Politicians, not all, but far too many of them, do not care a fig about sexual harassed victims, they only care about politicizing sexual harassment charges to take down Donald Trump.
Stop paying for their sexual crimes. Throw them overboard with Senator Al Franken.
While hundreds of millions of Americans were spending the day before Thanksgiving preparing for the annual family feast, President Trump was setting basketball dad LaVar Ball straight on the release of his shoplifting son from China.
“It wasn’t the White House, it wasn’t the State Department, it wasn’t father LaVar’s so-called people on the ground in China that got his son out of a long-term prison sentence — IT WAS ME,” Trump tweeted at 5:29 a.m.
The president was responding to a 23-minute Monday CNN interview of Ball with Chris Cuomo that has since gone viral and has been called bizarre. Cuomo was following up with Ball who had refused to thank Trump for intervening with authorities while he was in China to release Ball’s son and two other UCLA basketball players who had been arrested for shoplifting. The trio faced a possible ten-year sentence.
Questioned by Cuomo, Ball claimed there “were others on the ground” responsible for bringing his son home.
Discounting Trump’s claims, Ball said, “Somebody can make a suggestion and somebody could do something. You have people that make suggestions you got people that do things.
“Just because people say things, you know, that’s supposed to be true, like hey, I stopped him from serving ten years. Maybe we were doing some talking with other people before he even got there,” Ball said.
“I had some things done, I talked to some people that did some things, too.”
Watch the entire interview with Chris Cuomo
Ball further discounted Trump’s contribution to his son’s freedom by noting that the president was already in China on official business, so he was owed no special thanks. But Ball seemed to leave the door open if Trump would shake his hand.
“It’s not like he was in the U.S. and said, OK, there’s three kids in China, I need to go over there and get them? That wasn’t the thought process, right?
“I don’t have to say, to go around saying thank you to everybody,” he said. “You come around and shake my hand, and meet me, or meet my son, or anybody and then say you know what, maybe I can help you out.”
Ball’s interview went far afield and was the subject on Wednesday’s “Late Night with Seth Meyers,” where guest Cuomo described his own reaction to his off-the-wall exchange with Ball.
Cuomo’s attempt to have Ball explain how he could say Trump had played no role and Ball’s claimed “people on the ground” deserved the credit resulted in Ball turning on him.
“You don’t say thank you like any kind of word. Are you Trump’s brother? You want me to thank you?” said Ball.
“Did you thank the doctor for bringing you into this world? Well, you better go back and find him. Because you lucky.
“I know exactly what I said. But you buffered it up like you said that you don’t want to say thank you to nobody. I know you’re trying to add tone to it because that’s what you do.”
Ball then mocked Cuomo’s name: “Chrome-Mo like Google. Like the Google Chrome.”
That was the context of Trump’s day-before-Thanksgiving tweets.
After comparing the ungrateful Ball to Don King, the colorful former boxing promoter and Trump supporter, the president continued: “… LaVar, you could have spent the next 5 to 10 years during Thanksgiving with your son in China, but no NBA contract to support you. But remember LaVar, shoplifting is NOT a little thing. It’s a really big deal, especially in China. Ungrateful fool!”
Ball made reference to the shoplifting in his interview with Cuomo, at one point seeming to rebuke his son for stealing and foolishly doing it in a country with tough laws. But and at another point, he appeared to excuse the criminal behavior because the Chinese saw that his son “has so much character.”
“If you want something, and you want it, you shouldn’t just go and steal it,” Ball said. “You can go to Africa and somewhere and do the same thing anywhere you go in someone else’s country, yes, it’s going to be a little deeper than what you thought it was.”
“But the Chinese people were like, you know what, he’s OK. He has so much character in 18 years that he’s allow to have a pass for that.”
Perhaps predictably, Trump has been criticized for getting into another Twitter war. Cuomo accused him of taking Ball’s bait. Greg Sargent, political writer for the Washington Post, argued Trump “goes out of his way to attack prominent African Americans,” casting the feud as evidence of racism.
For his part, Trump was up bright and early Thanksgiving morning, tweeting in response at 3:31 a.m., “MAKE AMERICA GREAT AGAIN!”
Read more at http://www.wnd.com/2017/11/tweeting-trump-unloads-on-thankless-trash-talking-lavar-ball/#KhfrjQ0ZhqckYjbM.99
Thanksgiving — celebrated each year on the fourth Thursday of November — is perhaps one of the most cherished of American holidays; it’s a time when family and friends gather over ample amounts of food and give thanks for the blessings in life, including each other. As explained by University of California psychology professor Robert Emmons, one of the leading scientific experts on gratitude and author of several books on the topic, gratitude involves two key components:1
- It’s “an affirmation of goodness;” when you feel gratitude, you affirm that you live in a benevolent world
- It’s a recognition that the source of this goodness comes from outside of yourself; that other people (or higher powers, if you prefer) have provided you with “gifts” that improve your life in some way
An Attitude of Gratitude Fosters Health and Happiness
The practice of openly sharing what we’re grateful for is by many accounts one of the healthiest aspects of our annual Thanksgiving festivity. According to psychologists, it’s a ritual that fosters both happiness and health. It’s unfortunate that most people reserve this gratitude ritual for Thanksgiving Day only. While giving thanks once a year is beneficial, doing it more often could be life changing.2 At least that’s what science suggests.
Studies have actually shown that the psychological state of gratitude has beneficial implications for every major organ system in your body.3 So, if you’re serious about your well-being you’d be wise to increase the frequency at which you feel and express gratitude. Adopting the ritual of saying grace at every meal, for example, is a great way to flex your gratitude muscle on a daily basis,4 and will also foster a deeper connection to your food.
When you reflect on all the things that went into its creation, from the sowing of the seed, to the harvest and the cooking, you’ll realize just how much work — by both nature and man — went into creating the meal before you that will now provide you with nourishment. Considering a breakdown anywhere along that chain would result in scarcity and hunger, there’s a lot to be thankful for in each plate of food.
The First Thanksgiving
Thanksgiving is celebrated in remembrance of the first recorded feast between the British pilgrims and Native Americans in Plymouth. The year was 1621, and the pilgrims had just reaped their first successful harvest in the New World. While the history of this first Thanksgiving celebration is sketchy, eyewitness accounts claim:5
- The feast was attended by at least 50 English pilgrims and 90 Wampanoag Indians, the latter of which walked for two days to attend. In addition to food, marksmanship games and running races were also enjoyed.
- The celebration lasted three days.
- Venison was the highlight of the meal, brought by the Wampanoag tribesmen. Other meal selections included fish and fowls (wild turkeys, ducks and geese).
At the time, the get-together was not called “Thanksgiving,” and it did not become an annual, national holiday until 1863, nearly a century and a half later. In fact, the feast in 1621 appears to have been a singular event. Unfortunately, the peace between pilgrims and the Wampanoag tribe was short-lived, and Thanksgiving is for many Native Americans a controversial holiday tainted by ancestral pain. According to Time:6
“Early European colonizers and Native Americans lived in peace through a symbiotic relationship for about 10 years until thousands of additional settlers arrived … Up to 25,000 Englishmen landed in the New World between 1630 and 1642, after a plague drastically cut the native population by what’s believed to be more than half … The arrival of new settlers prompted a fight for land and rising animosity. War exploded in 1675 …
Many Native Americans have long marked Thanksgiving as a day of somber remembrance. Jacqueline Keeler, a member of the Dineh Nation and the Yankton Dakota Sioux … observes Thanksgiving with her family but doesn’t think of it as a national holiday … ‘Thanksgiving tells a story that is convenient for Americans. [But] it’s a celebration of our survival. I recognize it as a chance for my family to come together as survivors, pretty much in defiance.’”
Be Sure to Keep the ‘Thanks’ in Thanksgiving
Depending on the kind of year you’ve had, you may or may not feel like you have a whole lot to feel thankful for. Whether or not you should express thanks if you feel you have nothing to be thankful for is addressed in a previous New York Times article. In it, Arthur C. Brooks writes:7
“It’s best to be emotionally authentic, right? Wrong. Building the best life does not require fealty to feelings in the name of authenticity, but rather rebelling against negative impulses and acting right even when we don’t feel like it. In a nutshell, acting grateful can actually make you grateful …
Evidence suggests that we can actively choose to practice gratitude — and that doing so raises our happiness … If you want a truly happy holiday, choose to keep the “thanks” in Thanksgiving, whether you feel like it or not.”
One way to flex your gratitude muscle when life events leave you uninspired is to identify and express gratitude for seemingly “useless” or insignificant things. It could be a certain smell in the air, the color of a flower, your child’s freckles or the curvature of a stone. Over time, you’ll find that doing this will really hone your ability to identify “good” things in your life. In fact, you may eventually find that “bliss” is closer than you imagined.
Health Benefits of Gratitude
|Stimulating your hypothalamus (an area of your brain involved in the regulation of stress) and your ventral tegmental area (part of your brain’s “reward circuitry,” an area that produces pleasurable feelings)11|
|Improving your sleep12 (especially if your mind has a tendency to go into overdrive with negative thoughts and worries at bedtime)|
|Raising the likelihood you’ll engage in healthy activities such as exercise|
|Raising your relationship satisfaction|
|Raising your work performance (in one study, managers who expressed gratitude saw a 50 percent increase in the employees’ performance)|
|Reducing your stress13|
|Enhancing your sense of general well-being14|
|Improving your heart health15, reducing the likelihood of sudden death in patients with congestive heart failure and coronary artery disease|
|Producing measurable effects on a number of systems in your body, including the neurotransmitters serotonin, norepinephrine and dopamine (involved in mood regulation), inflammatory cytokines, reproductive hormones, the stress hormone cortisol, the social bonding hormone oxytoxin, blood pressure, cardiac and EEG rhythms, and blood sugar levels|
10 Practical Strategies to Build and Strengthen Gratitude
Like a muscle, your sense of gratitude can be built and strengthened with practice. Here are 10 gratitude practices you can experiment with:
Keep a daily gratitude journal
This can be done in a paper journal, or you can download a Gratitude Journal app from iTunes.16 In one study, people who kept a gratitude journal reported exercising more, and had fewer visits to the doctor compared to those who focused on sources of aggravation.17,18
Write thank you notes or a thank you letter19
Whether in response to a gift or kind act, or simply as a show of gratitude for someone being in your life, getting into the habit of writing thank you letters or notes can help you express gratitude in addition to simply feeling it inside.
This includes smiles and hugs, both of which can express a wide array of messages, from encouragement and excitement to empathy and support.
Be sincere, and choose your words wisely
While it’s easy to say words like “please” and “thank you” in passing, these courtesies can become potent acknowledgments of gratitude when combined with eye contact and sincerity. In other words, say it like you mean it.
Research20 also shows that using “other-praising” phrases are far more effective than “self-beneficial” phrases. For example, praising a partner saying, “thank you for going out of your way to do this,” is better than a compliment framed in terms of how you benefited, such as “it makes me happy when you do that.” The former resulted in the partner feeling happier and more loving toward the person giving the praise.
Focus on the benevolence of other people instead of being so self-centered
Avoid comparing yourself to people you perceive to have more advantages
Doing so will only erode your sense of security. As Emmons notes in his book, “The Little Book of Gratitude,”22“Wanting more is related to increased anxiety and unhappiness. A healthier comparison is to contemplate what life would be like without a pleasure that you now enjoy … Gratitude buffers you from emotions that drive anxiety. You cannot be grateful and envious, or grateful while harboring regrets.”
Prayer and/or mindfulness meditation
Expressing thanks during prayer or meditation is another way to cultivate gratitude. Practicing “mindfulness” means that you’re actively paying attention to the moment you’re in right now. A mantra is sometimes used to help maintain focus, but you can also focus on something that you’re grateful for, such as a pleasant smell, a cool breeze or a lovely memory.
Create a nightly gratitude ritual
This suggestion was given by Dr. Alison Chen in a Huffington Post article.23 “My colleague has a bedtime routine with her [3-year-old] and it includes recognizing what you are grateful for. When this part of the night comes, you can’t shut him up,” Chen writes.
“There are so many things that we take for granted and when you listen to the long list that a child can come up with you realize the possibilities for gratefulness are limitless! Take a couple of minutes each day to stop and reflect; taking regular pause is an excellent way to bring about more feelings of gratefulness in your life.”
One suggestion is to create a gratitude jar,24 into which the entire family can add notes of gratitude on a daily basis. Any jar or container will do. Simply write a quick note on a small slip of paper and put it into the jar. Some make an annual (or bi-annual or even monthly) event out of going through the whole jar, reading each slip out loud.
Spend money on activities instead of things
According to recent research,25 spending money on experiences not only generates more feelings of gratitude than material consumption, it also motivates greater generosity. As noted by co-author Amit Kumar, postdoctoral research fellow at the University of Chicago, “People feel fortunate, and because it’s a diffuse, untargeted type of gratitude, they’re motivated to give back to people in general.”26
Interestingly, generosity has also been linked to happiness, which may seem counterintuitive since giving to others means sacrificing some of your own physical or emotional resources. This experience has now been validated by science showing that generosity and happiness are actually wired together in your brain. 27
Tap forth gratitude
The Emotional Freedom Techniques (EFT) is a helpful tool. EFT is a form of psychological acupressure based on the energy meridians used in acupuncture that can quickly restore inner balance and healing, and helps rid your mind of negative thoughts and emotions. In the video below, EFT practitioner Julie Schiffman demonstrates how to tap for gratitude.
Cultivate an Attitude of Gratitude Year-Round
Your future health and happiness depends largely on the thoughts you think today. It’s worth remembering that each moment of every day is an opportunity to feel and express gratitude. Doing so will, over time, help you feel happier, strengthen your relationships and support your health. By focusing on what’s good right now, in the present moment, you become more open to receive greater abundance in the future.
A view of the Mahdi and Muslim Jesus featured prominently on Vali-Asr Square in Tehran, Iran.
The locations of some of Iran’s military installations in Syria, including some within 30 miles of Israeli territory in the Golan Heights, may be motivated more by Tehran’s desire to provoke an Islamic end-of-the-world cataclysm than for strategic value, contends an expert on Shiite religious dogma.
Ryan Mauro of the Clarion Project argues the bases near Israel don’t pose an imminent threat of a conventional military strike or even an asymmetrical attack. But he said the motivation is rather a desire to fulfill Shia prophecy of a showdown with the Jewish state that Iran’s religious leadership believes will prompt the coming of a messianic figure, or “Mahdi.”
Iran has frequently stated its desire to destroy Israel, claiming the Jewish state is the focus of its nuclear and long-range missile program. Iran has also funneled millions of dollars into proxy enemies of Israel.
There are now some 13 Iranian military installations in Syria – some manned by Hezbollah terrorists and others by Iranian Revolutionary Guard forces.
“This isn’t normal competition between hostile powers; this isn’t even the normal Iranian sponsorship of terrorism or attempts to expand their military presence,” Mauro said in a recent television interview. “To the Iranian regime this is the fulfillment of prophecy.”
Mauro pointed out that new Iranian troops are called Ansar al-Mahdi, or “Supporters of the Messiah.” And Iran has also created a 313th brigade, into which it is recruiting young Syrian Shiites. According to tradition in Shiite Islam, 313 is the number of fighters that will arrive with the Mahdi, the Islamic Messiah, Mauro explained.
Shia tradition holds that the arrival of the Mahdi will coincide with the arrival of the Christian messiah, Jesus, who will be the Mahdi’s lieutenant in fighting the Masih ad-Dajjal, the false messiah, or anti-Christ.
Shia Islam believes the Mahdi will reappear with Jesus, who will declare himself a Muslim, and kill Christians who refuse to convert. “The end of days,” according to Shia belief, will be a bloody battle, killing off two-thirds of the world population and leaving the rest to convert to Islam.
The concept of the Mahdi figures in Iranian politics. In a speech in front of the U.N. General Assembly in 2008, then-Iranian President Mahmoud Ahmadinejad left the gathered politicians aghast as he begged Allah to hasten the return of the Mahdi.
“You are not dealing with fully rational actors,” Mauro said. “You can be irrational and strategic and pragmatic at the same time, which is what Iran is doing. If you understand these prophecies, you can understand Iran.”
Mauro explained that according to Shiite theology, Iranian leadership believes it will lead the battle against Sunni adversaries, invade Israel and take over Jerusalem. He added that the recent destabilization in Saudi Arabia is a direct result of Iran’s apocalyptic agenda.
Other observers have concluded an Iranian missile fired at Mecca’s airport earlier this month was more about religion than military strategy.
Read more at http://www.wnd.com/2017/11/irans-syria-bases-near-israel-have-apocalyptic-intent/#IB1xjh8KHtKGrYwd.99